I talked to my mom after breaking up with my guy. I called a friend first but she was sleeping, so ended up with my mom. Somewhere in the conversation my mom said--at least it sounded this way to me--that I shouldn't expect a man to ever want me because I'm ill. She never talks this way normally and it was very hurtful, and the worst possible timing. In the same conversation she mentioned how compassionate I am. I don't get it. I brought this up a few days later and she got upset with me. We didn't resolve things but did state our points of view.
She decided to talk about it with someone else and try to figure out why she says these things. I'm just so glad that she's trying to figure it out, and not with me! Hopefully she'll have a better understanding of how much it hurt. Cause I make an awesome girlfriend ;)
It's interesting how friends just accept me as I am, with no stigma, but maybe my mom still has her hopes from before I got sick. I don't know what it is that's wrong or disappointing in her eyes. With what I had to work with and the troubles along the way I've made a really good life.
Edit: I wanted to reiterate that what my mom actually said was not what I heard. I still have no idea what exactly she was trying to say, but I'm sure it was supportive. Or meant to be.